Is My Partner a Psychopath?

Authored by Jane Squires

Edited by Hugh Soames

Reviewed by Michael Por

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Is my partner a Psychopath?

The term psychopath gets thrown around often, but its common usage to describe certain people has allowed the word to lose much of its meaning. The word “psychopath” is used by mental health care professionals to describe a person who is unemotional, callous, and morally corrupt.


Psychopath is not an official diagnosis in the mental health care community. The term is most often used in legal and clinical settings. You may be familiar with the term “psychopath” from television, films, and books bout true-life crime, where it is often misused.


Defining “Psychopath”


Originally, the word “psychopath” was used to describe a person who is manipulative, deceitful, and uncaring. The term to describe those three traits was later changed to “sociopath”. This was done as sociopath encompasses the fact that these persons are out to harm society. Over the years, researchers have begun to use the term “psychopath” once more.


Many times, “psychopath” and “sociopath” are used interchangeably. It should be noted that “sociopath” describes a person with antisocial tendencies, and is affected by social or environmental factors. Psychopathic traits are believed to be more innate in people. In the end, both non-genetic and genetic issues likely play a part to shape a person’s antisocial traits.


Today, many people who are labeled as a psychopath would most likely be diagnosed as suffering from antisocial personality disorder. Antisocial personality disorder is a broader mental health issue and it is used to describe a person who routinely acts out and breaks defined rules. However, just a small number of people suffering from antisocial personality disorder are actually considered psychopaths.


A person exhibiting psychopathic behavior varies from one individual to the next. Some psychopaths are sex offenders and/or murderers. Other psychopaths may actually be successful business people or leaders.


Narcissist vs Psychopath


Narcissistic personality disorder — one of several types of personality disorders — is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others11.B. Smith, Browse journals by subject, Browse journals by subject.; Retrieved October 9, 2022, from Narcissists are often labelled as Psycopaths and it is true that at the far end of the scale a narcissist, sociopath and psychopath are very similar.


The traits of a Narcissist are:


  • Grandiosity. Exaggerated sense of self-importance
  • Excessive need for admiration
  • Superficial and exploitative relationships
  • Lack of empathy
  • Identity disturbance
  • Difficulty with attachment and dependency
  • Chronic feelings of emptiness and boredom
  • Vulnerability to life transitions
  • Dangerous when you try to leave


Characteristics of a Psychopath


It may be difficult to distinguish between people who are psychopaths and individuals possessing psychopathic traits. A distinction between the two must be done. You may exhibit a number of psychopathic traits, but not actual be a psychopath.


A person with psychopathic traits may not engage in psychopathic behavior. Only a person with psychopathic traits and antisocial behavior is considered a psychopath by modern mental health care professionals.


The traits exhibited by a psychopath are:


  • Antisocial behavior
  • Narcissism
  • Superficial charm
  • Impulsivity
  • Callous, unemotional feelings
  • A lack of guilt
  • A lack of empathy


If you exhibit any of these traits, do not fear. Research has found that over 25% of the population possess one or more psychopathic traits. However, less than 1.0% of the population fits into the definition of psychopath.


Psychopathy Checklist


By using the 20-item Hare Psychopathy Checklist, a mental health care practitioner can determine if a person is a psychopath. The checklist features a spectrum of traits that a person is weighed against.


Each trait is scored on a three-point scale of whether it applies or does not apply to the individual:


  • Does not apply (0)
  • Applies to a certain extent (1)
  • Fully applies to the individual (2)


If an individual scores 30 or more, they are considered a clinical psychopath. For example, serial killer Ted Bundy scored 39 on the Hare Psychopathy Checklist. Canadian researcher Robert Hare developed the checklist in the 1970s. An individual should be tested by a mental health care professional for a true examination.


The Psychopath checklist includes the following psychopathic characteristics:


  • Glibness/superficial charm
  • Grandiose sense of self-worth
  • Need for stimulation and proneness to boredom
  • Pathological lying
  • Conning/manipulative
  • Lack of remorse and/or guilt
  • Reduced emotional responses
  • Callous and having a lack of empathy
  • Parasitic lifestyle
  • Poor behavioral controls
  • Promiscuous sexual behavior
  • Early behavioral problems
  • Lack of realistic, long-term goals
  • Impulsivity
  • Irresponsibility
  • Failure to accept responsibility for their own actions
  • Many short-term marital relationships
  • Juvenile delinquency
  • Revocation of conditional release from prison
  • Commits diverse types of crimes

What Causes a Person to be Psychopathic?


Psychopathic traits are basically influenced by an individual’s genetics. However, according to research, there are non-genetic factors at play as well. Scientists have discovered signs of atypical functioning in particular areas of the brain, such as the amygdala, in individuals demonstrating psychopathic traits. There is still much to learn about psychopathy and the brain.


A person may begin showing early psychopathy characteristics, which are called “callous-unemotional traits”, before the age of 10. Individuals may receive a formal diagnosis from a mental health care provider such as conduct disorder. Just because a person shows psychopathic traits in childhood, it does not mean that the individual will grow up to become a psychopath as an adult.


A high score on the Hare Psychopathy Checklist establishes the measure of psychopathy traits that may pose a serious of issues to successful therapy. There is evidence that associated antisocial behaviors and psychopathic traits may wane during a person’s life. At the moment, it is not known just how well therapy can alter the traits of psychopathy in an individual.


Is violence a result of psychopathic behavior?


Psychopaths and psychopathic behavior are synonymous with murderers and serial killers. Modern television, movies, and books have generously used the terms to describe the killers in their stories.


Despite psychopaths being uses as the bad guy or girl in media, it doesn’t mean that all individuals diagnosed as a psychopath is a murderer. In fact, it doesn’t mean that these people are dangerous at all.


There is literature that claims psychopaths could be more violent than the general population. However, the truth is that not all psychopaths are violent or exhibit a violent nature.


Studies haves shown that some people who are diagnosed as psychopaths are actually successful in their roles in business and in other areas. These people are less likely to break the law and more likely to hold high positions of leadership. Known as “successful psychopaths”, these individuals may test higher in certain areas like conscientious traits rather than the antisocial traits.


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